“My Viking Vagina
It’s such a pity this book is in black and white. I am a redhead and my pubic hair is a rich, red gold, thick and curly and abundant, unique.
Back in high school the boys would ask if I had ‘red pubes’. Protecting myself from the taunting that arises from any kind of difference, I would lie and respond, “Of course not, it’s black, just like yours”. They seemed satisfied with my answer and the questions stopped.
Then, in art class there was a girl who’d moved to our country town from Canada. She was mature, street wise, creative and brilliant. For her painting project she decided to paint three naked women.
Of the three huge canvases, the first displayed a woman who was skinny and black, with tribal adornments about her hips and pert breasts. The second was a Mediterranean woman, with voluptuous curves and long black hair.
The third painting was my undoing. She was round and pink-skinned like a piglet, with a nest of tight fire-truck red curls embellishing her head, and her pubic mound. I was devastated in being outed in this way. I can’t remember the taunts afterward, but god I hated her for her thoughtless act of exposure.
Now, far beyond the pain of adolescence, I can celebrate my uniqueness. I just wish that I could now display it in this book in all its glory… just one page in colour??”
“The center of my being, is she…
My lovely lady bits have been quite the cause of some trouble and blessings…
She was my own personal play thing until the age of 16, when another form of play was found.
Girls, boys and toys each had their share, until her primal design was put to use, when, three times, my singularly unique vagina brought my children into the world.
Her narrow canal being stretched and pulled to unimaginable shapes and sizes, only to remarkably snap back to true form.
She has been the cause of envy, temptation and desire with many questing after her and the body to which she belongs. She has stretched her tendrils into my mind and whispered gently in my ear willing me to travel to faraway places in the quest of satisfaction.
Jealousy over the desire shown by others caused a breakdown in a long term relationship, but freedom was gained, and my oh my, did she drink from the overflowing cup of attention.
Through boyfriends, girlfriends, lovers, a marriage and several swinging sessions, she has never let me down.
She has kept all my secrets. She has been my honest center of feeling. She never lies about whom I love or desire.
I am a Mother, a Lover and a Girlfriend. She will never leave me. She will always please me. We know each other so well.
She is beautiful, special and there will never be another like her.”
Wow, I saw the Vagina Monologues in London back in 2005, so I can understand why the show inspired you. Fantastic!
The ‘101vagina’ project got me thinking – what a good relationship I have with mine. That I’ve only ever had caring and sensitive lovers (and only very kind doctors that I truly trusted), who have treated mine with great respect. Probably because I wouldn’t allow anythings less :-)
When I was in my early 20s, out having drinks with my 3 closest girlfriends (2 of which were lesbians, one of which was bisexual – so we were a bit more ‘liberal thinking’ than most girls), my best friend commented that she thought her clitoris was very long! Another friend admitted that she had ‘large inner labia lips’ (but loved them), and I commented quite candidly – that I’d only recently discovered- one of mine was much longer than the other! We all decided in the end, to get together and compare!! (The things you do after a few cocktails, LOL!)
It was a really amazing experience to see other women’s vaginas – in all their unique detail. You can’t help but notice the many little differences. I think we all felt quite awed (and privileged) to share such a naturally curious and intimate experience. Woman normally just don’t ever see other women’s privates (except in silly soft porn images, which are so unreal it’s just plain ridiculous).
It was then that I realised … our vaginas are as diverse as our faces! Small/big noses, thin/thick lips, pink/tan/brown colouring, soft/wiry hair, etc. And I suddenly appreciated that my own vagina was perfecty fine, exactly as it was :-)
I think the more art & film projects that show ‘real’ women’s bodies, and just how wonderfully different we are, the more educated and empowered women become – ie. confident girlfriends/wives, and strong mothers – and it makes the world a more supportive, concsious, loving place to be.
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“Vagina, vajayjay, punani, fanny, cunt, twat, Hairy Mary, yoni, pussy, kitty, muff, beaver, box, honey pot, coochie, muff ………………….
The list goes on.
Vaginas are like noses and hands, they all look so completely different and are 100% EXCEPTIONAL.
Like with anything: it’d be pretty boring if there were no variety. It’s like Kinder Surprise: you never know what toy you’re going to get.
They vary as much as penises and bananas which can be wide, thin, long, short, left or right leaning, up turning, down turning.
They come in all shapes and sizes. From my experience I can tell you no two look the same. Dark pubes, light pubes, tight and curly, coarse, fine, wavy, a neat triangle, an absolute amazon, or none, or just a landing strip. The lips: like shades of red/pink/brown lipstick: a spectrum of colours. Some are big, some small, some hidden, some hanging out. Some are tangy, sweet, wide, loose. Seriously it’s a real bag of mixed lollies: clitoris allsorts!
That still doesn’t stop us feeling like ours is completely different to every other one and having feelings of insecurity. But it’s no different to any other body part, some people think they have strange looking legs, or feet or hands. There’s no such thing as ‘normal’
I had a partner who always took the piss out of my rather large labia and I didn’t sleep with anyone else for about 5 years after that.!!!! I can’t believe I did that, what a waste!
I’ve learned that it really doesn’t matter what yours looks like because whoever sees it will have seen X amount that look completely different.
Your vagina is GREAT it’s like no one else’s: it’s got character (mine looks like a turkey), it’s your friend. Despite bleeding every 3 – 5 weeks, being itchy at times and having a mind of its own (that can get you in sticky situations) it’s your best friend. Think of all the FANTASTIC times you share.
To me every vagina is amazing, individual, fun, warm, and great to look at, touch, taste and smell.
Thank you for giving us this opportunity to put ours on display and celebrate them for all their UNIQUENESS.
Love, embrace and share your beautiful flowers.”
“When I first had a boy see my vagina, I was 14. After our experience together he spread a rumor around that I was too hairy! I was totally mortified! I also thought my labia minor were uneven and not very attractive or ‘neat’ like what you see in the Pornos! I’d didn’t think about it too much, but a few years ago I was at confest and a workshop caught my eye called ‘Genital Appreciation’. I felt immediately confronted by the concept and realized, with that kind of reaction, there was probably something I needed to address with my vagina! So off I went.
The workshop was a ‘show and tell’ kind of set up and was really healing, to just speak about my insecurities, experiences and hear others sharing similar feelings was really quite amazing. Having spaces to open up a dialogue around sexuality issues is powerful stuff as we so often keep our intimate, vulnerable thoughts and feelings hidden inside where they play out in other ways. Shame is very insidious..
So, since my first not so positive vagina experience, I have had other lovers who have shown great appreciation and love for my vagina! It is still a little uneven and a little bit hairy, but it’s a passionate and powerful part of me and I appreciate it for all it’s uniqueness. I’ve even taught it to do some new tricks and she’s becoming more and more confident as we grow and learn together :)
101 Vagina is an awesome idea and I am proud to be a part of it!”